Girlfriend Bonds – No Man Should Come Between Those Bonds
Hello Girlfriends – A bond of a woman is a strong thing and so often jeopardized by men. So many times in life we make incredible friendships while unattached and once we find an attachment then those friendships fizzle out; partly because we want to spend time with our new relationships and partly because we don’t make the time. Don’t tell me you spend so much time that you don’t even have one day a week for your girlfriends?
Why do we feel we must have either a man/woman relationship or a girlfriend/girlfriend relationship – is it either or? Why can’t we have both? Sometimes relationships get possessive and controlling. The idea of I’m in y our life and no one else should exist comes to play. I’m writing from experience here, when I was married I made no time for girlfriends and used up all my time for my husband. This is not at all healthy; it’s good to spend some time away from each other. Well, once the marriage ended, I had no husband and I was fortunate enough to make friends quickly but I had no one from my past to talk to.
We think that this only happens to teenagers – but it actually happens to adults as well. I’m sure many of you reading this can relate.
Our girlfriends will be there when the men in our lives are not. They are the ones that will hold your hand and dry a tear. I can only think of balance in our lives. I’m sure there is a way to balance both female and male relationships. The best practice is to be up front with our significant others and let them k now how important your girlfriends in your life are. Let him know you find it important that you stay connected and continue to do things with them as you pursue your relationship with your man. Sometimes we have to explain that it’s not because we love them less but that we will be better women for them with the help of our friends!
Nonetheless, it’s called communication – The Beatles had it right with their hit song, “With a Little Help From My Friends.”
Remember, may the possibilities of today excite us all!
Nancy Shields has a passion to create a better world by connecting and inspiring women! She is the creator of www.makeGirlfriends.com, a social networking site designed for women to meet.share.inspire one another through the adventure we call life! Nancy's inspiration came 3 years ago when she discovered that her husband was having an affair. She had two choices; become a victim or turn a negative into a positive. So she positively packed her bags and landed in the farthest state she could choose, California. Once home, Nancy vividly recalls a conversation she had with a girlfriend about the nightmare of dating. The concept of MakeGirlfriends.com was born and in action. "It really works!", says Nancy. Here, women can connect with other “girlfriends”, because without our “girlfriends” in life, it can get tough out there! Nancy encourages women to share their inspirational stories on the homepage called “YOUR VOICE”. You never know how many lives you will touch by sharing your story...she can be reached via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.